We all have heard of the phrase that age is just a number, haven’t we? And a lot of us even live by this philosophy, pushing the limits of our youth, determined to do as much as possible. But why does it happen that when it comes to the matters of the heart, age becomes a big conundrum?
People (who anyway have a lot to say when it comes to relationships) get all the more concerned with your love-life if you happen to be dating someone younger than you. Don’t believe me? Just take the whole Nick-Priyanka case, the Internet just couldn’t keep its collective wits about them just because Priyanka had seen a couple more autumns than Nick!
We are here to tell you that when it comes to your heart, don’t let these things hold you back, after all, the heart wants what it wants. But we do have a lot to say about the things that you are likely to experience when you have your heart set on someone who is a couple of years behind you. Here’s what you can expect:
1. Judgment…So Much Judgment
It’s pretty much a universal law that every time you do something which is against the norm, you have to face a lot of judgment from all sections of society. Even from those who themselves have had quite a few indiscretions in the past. This is going to happen, even if you don’t want to. Your private life will be the center of many drawing-room discussions, orthe source of whispered comments at gatherings.
What can you do to get past that? Just shrug your shoulders and do the Taylor Swift thing, just Shake It Off.
2. Commitment Might Be A Thorny Issue
Commitment is a double-edged sword. There’s a point in our lives when it seems to be too much of a hassle. It feels like you’re giving up on the idea of living your best life by committing to a person. You feel tied down. It’s quite possible you yourself experienced this in the past or it might be that you still feel the same way. Well, if your partner and you aren’t on the same page regarding this, don’t be too hard on them. Remember to respect their feelings and views.
3. The Lovemaking Will Be Pretty Interesting
Dating someone younger than you has its perks. Especially when it comes to the monkey business. What they might lack in terms of technique, they will make up for it with their youthful vigor and boundless energy! And you, my dear friend, are going to enjoy it a lot more, since you will have someone to impart your bedroom wisdom to *wink-wink*.
4. You Might Not Like Their Crowd
Do you remember the crowd that you hung out with when you were younger? Back then there were hundreds of “friends.” As you grew older you thinned out your crowd and had a few very close friends. That is not just your story, it happens to all of us.
Now you might find it irksome that your partner has a huge gang, or you might not approve of their friends. But again, the best thing to do in this scenario is to keep your views to yourself. If you really think their company is problematic, advise them but don’t butt into their business.
5. You Will Have A Hard Time Keeping Your Wisdom To Yourself
You will feel the urge to give them gyaan, and it will happen quite often. It’s quite natural for you to feel this, given the fact that you will have more life experience than them, and have probably been in their situation before.
But instead of lecturing them at every chance you get, try to see where they are coming from. This will make you appear more likable and relatable instead of patronizing. And there’s a high chance that your partner will feel more comfortable opening up to you.
6. You’ll Be Reminded Of Your Own Mortality
This is going to happen. In your brain, the difference between your ages will not count as much, but suddenly it will dawn on you that, it is, in fact, quite real. You will realize that while they just turned 25, your own 25th Birthday was quite a few winters back or that your idea of a fun date is diametrically opposite to theirs.
This is not to say that you will realize that you turned boring as you grew older, it’s just that you don’t enjoy the same things as they do, but hey, you can always work your way around that and find a middle ground.
But Here’s The Catch
Probably the biggest plus side of dating someone younger is that they inspire you to seize the day with their youthful exuberance and motivate you to move out of your comfort zone. So just ignore the number on those candles and go live your best life with your SO!
Relationships are a lot of work by themselves, age is just a factor you need to work around. And you can do that with effective communication, and lots of love.
Have you dated someone younger than you? Share your experience with us in the comments section.
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